Smell the irony.
I would be interested to hear the explanation of how my preferring to no longer have rude and selfish neighbours is toxic and harmful. I experienced a huge amount more anti-social behaviour in months on NFI than I did in years on SFI. Although, maybe you aren't referring to me, because I am not "spewing about NFI toxicity" so much as saying I found the dominant culture to be thoroughly unenjoyable. Maybe that culture has matured somewhat, but as of not so long ago it was still apparent in comments to the effect that only opinions that count are those of NFIers.
My mindset and attitude?
Everyone should get to play HOW they want.
Everyone should be treated with respect.
Everyone who can use my assistance may have it.
My solid experience across 3 northern islands tells me that a merge would likely damage 1 and 2. Everyone getting to play WHERE they want is already limited, so continuing to limit it and thus allowing everyone to continue playing HOW they want seems to make sense to me.