Dridmar here to give my 2 cents.
I've probably floated through all the kingdoms by now, just like another person that people seem to like to target on these forums. In most of those kingdoms I may not have been the most active, useful, or sociable; with that said, I have always tried to be respectful friend and foe alike. What I don't like to see is if somebody makes a mistake or does something a group of people don't like then this person can potentially be haunted the rest of their Wurm life. I think the forums should be a lot more strict to remove these personal attacks.
So from my experience I think you need to be
Respectful of property and items that aren't yours.
Respectful of other people in and out of combat.
A person who doesn't trash talk on the forums or in-game.
Perceptive enough to identify strains in relationships and bandage it before it becomes a bad or severely damaged relationship.
to have a decent experience on Chaos.