Thanks again for your map. I also wanted to reach out and say I appreciated you sharing about being on the Spectrum. I too am an Aspie and have two spectrum kids so I know all about this. I know dealing with the social aspects here is very hard and I think you are making a great effort. FWIW, I'm pretty sure some of the folks that are resistant to this change you've introduced to their environment are most likely on the spectrum as well. I know from kchat that at least one is probabably bpd. It's important to recognize that there are people at the ends of these virtual connections and everyone thinks and responds to stimuli differently (as I'm sure you're well aware). Empathy is often the most challenging aspect. Just consider that some of these other folks have special issues too and care may be needed in dealing with them.
While I very much agree with your stance on the whole map thing, and I see you've taken the high ground (not retaliating KOS), sometimes it's useful to "let the wookie win". Sure it's appeasement and that's not always the right tack. But sometimes compromise can be useful in making progress. Or at least in making friends.